‘As a child I wanted to be many things including a writer, actress, cricketer, and a boy. I also imagined I might get married, and perhaps one day become a mother.

I certainly never dreamt of having two intimate relationships simultaneously, nor did I think it was an option.

Fast forward 30 odd years, though, and that’s what happened. I was eight years into a long-term monogamous relationship with B. One evening over dinner we both admitted that we would like, ideally, to explore attractions with other people whilst also continuing to love each other.’

Read Lucy’s article on monogamy and the challenges of a relationship for iNews.