DEAR CARERS: Hard-won wisdom to those embarking on the task of caring for a loved one

‘I’m sending you the news I needed to hear myself. Needed and still need often, ransacking confusions to find a clear way forward. I have moved my mother Mary four times in seven years. These moves, I see now, map out the progressive stages of Alzheimer’s. But the stages are never neat, they are taking place in a person, with all her quirks and qualities, and different parts of the brain will be affected to different degrees.’

You Magazine ran an extract from Be With, which you can read online if you weren’t able to pick up a hard copy.